Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Making Time For You: Being a Mom and a Wife

Juggling being a mom, a wife, maid and making time for myself has been one of many new challenges I am facing with being a new parent. I am learning that if I do not make time, I turn into a not so happy person. It is really hard leaving Noah even for an hour, I get what people call ‘separation anxiety’. I wouldn’t say it’s actual anxiety though, I just really miss him. It is healthy for both of us to have time apart. That’s why I make time. Luckily my son usually sleeps for 9-10 hours a night, straight! So I usually take the first few hours of his sleep to make time for me. I will do my nails, have a long bath, watch my favourite shows and whatever else I feel like doing. I will not exercise at this time though because I have a really hard time falling asleep if I do.

When my son was born in May, my marriage went through an adjustment period. Even though we were both ready for this change, finding time for each other can sometimes be challenging when we are both putting our energy into our little guy. Eventually though I know that our children (yes, I plan on having more than 1) will grow up and leave the nest some day, but I’m together with my soulmate for life! So, I feel it’s extremely important to make time for my hubby now and forever. Having a baby can make time to connect more challenging, but we have proven that we can make it happen. Showing affection is one important factor, a simple kiss passing in the hall and giving each other a kiss/hug before leaving the house and when getting home. It sounds simple right? Well sometimes it’s just not when you’re busy attending to the needs of your baby. A happy husband makes for a happy marriage, making him the center of my universe sometimes is extremely important. Even if it means making your child wait a minute while you finish talking to or hugging your spouse. I believe this will teach your child to be patient and show them how much you love their daddy, so just do it! Communication is another very important factor, I’m proud to say that we have very good skills with this. We talk about everything that bothers us until we feel better, and we never go to bed mad. So, if you are feeling lonely, resentful or anything negative... Talk about it with your partner before things add up and turn into a fight.

Playing and taking care of a baby is exhausting, usually when he’s ready for a nap I am too. Finding time to exercise is something I need to work on, I am seriously struggling with this. I have heard that maybe setting my alarm in the morning to be an hour before he wakes and exercising works, or exercising while they nap. I just hate exercising when I first wake up, so that’s out of the question. Like I mentioned, I’m exhausted once his nap time comes and we nap together.
My new goal is to work out with my Baby! I am going to try setting him up with lots of toys on the ground with me and do some work out DVD’s. That way I am there to tend to him if he needs me. If the weather was nicer walking would be our daily thing. It’s currently just too snowy and cold, but that’s okay! I’m determined. I’ll keep you posted to let you know if this method works for me.

Hopefully you will find what works for you too! It’s all about trial and error my friends.  

Wish me luck!

- Jenn

2 comments :

  1. I've always said to my wife that I don't know how people with kids do it. By the time we get home (sometimes after an errand or two following work), shower, feed the cats, eat dinner and do dishes there's not a lot of time left in the evening (my wife usually goes to bed around ten because she works out early. I sometimes stay up later but my sleep is then compromised because I get up around 5:15-5:30am). There's not a lot of time together and alone. So I can hardly imagine what it must be like for you also raising a little guy. I get very moody if I don't get time alone to "do my own thing", separate from the time my wife and I spend together.

    Having a baby has a major impact on a relationship. If you're finding a way to adjust to that, then I'm confident you'll be able to adjust to a workout schedule and find something that works for you. :)

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  2. Thank you Barry, life sure can get busy! I am determined to make time for myself, because it will make for a happier wifey and mommy.

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