Thursday, October 17, 2013

Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Questions to Ask Yourself

As you may have read before in a previous post I have decided to do a series of blogs related to Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Today I wanted to put a few questions out there that I really wish someone had asked me 4-5 years ago. I feel weird calling myself a survivor.. I hate being thought of as the victim. It is what it is.. but I am no longer ashamed. Please ask yourself/or a friend these questions if you are concerned about Domestic Abuse. Don't disregard the answers.

Do they try to control you by telling you what to wear, say or do?
Do they tell you who you can hang out with or be friends with?
Do they call you names and embarrass you in front of others?
Do they pressure you or force you to engage in sexual acts against your will?
Do they try to shame you, damage your self-worth, criticize you or call you names?
Do they tell you nobody else will want you as a way to force you to stay in relationship?
Do they make you feel like it’s your fault that the relationship is difficult?
Do they tease you, use sarcasm as a way to put you down or degrade you?
Do they tell you that your opinion or feelings are “wrong or regularly ridicule, dismiss, disregard your opinions, thoughts, suggestions, and feelings?
Do you feel you must “get permission” before going somewhere or before making even small decisions?
Do they remind you of your shortcomings?
Do they belittle your accomplishments, your aspirations, your plans or even who you are?
Do they have trouble apologizing?
Do they not notice or care how you feel?

Please remember that there is ALWAYS a way out and you do not need to live with the abuse. It doesn't matter if it is physical, emotional, sexual, financial or any type... it is never okay. Never.

If there is an emergency and you are afraid for your life please call 911.

You can also call the assaulted women's hotline which is available 24 hours a day: Toll-free: 1-866-863-0511

You can also call legal aid to see what services are available to you: 1-800-668-8258

To locate services in your area you can call the victims support line: 1-888-579-2888

Please do not be afraid to get help.


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